Anger, Is It a Bad Thing (?)


Do you ever get angry? What sort of things stir or ignite your anger?
ANGER  : a strong feeling of displeasure and usually of antagonism. 
               : to make (someoneangry.
ANGRY feeling or showing anger.
              : indicative of or proceeding from anger.
I am sharing with you today from a very personal vantage point about anger and being angry.  I do not have any special skills or have a PhD in behavioral science; I only have my own trials and errors along with some sound guidance from learned mentors in my life.  I also have the very best teacher and friend I’ve ever known that is my constant hope and help, God! 
I think it is a fair statement to say we have all experienced feelings of anger or been angry at someone or something at least once in our lives.  What do you remember about that experience? Do you remember if anyone gave you advice about the issue?  Was it encouragement or was it more of a case of reverse psychology.  I’m guessing at least one person said this to you, “Calm down, it’s not that big of a deal!”  Or something very similar to those words. I don’t know about anyone else but when I get worked up the last thing I want to do is calm down! Any ideas as to why this is the case? I would like to make a point of distinction here about the differences in getting angry verses always being angry.  I am not speaking about individuals who are perpetually angry and exhibit violence, that is an entirely different scenario than what I am wanting to talk about.  I’m simply saying that in life things happen that stir up feelings of anger and manifest itself through our senses and we become angry. But why?  Have you ever ask yourself, “why does this bother me?”  Maybe we should also ask ourselves, “should this bother me?”  These questions can only be answered when we are completely honest with ourselves, only then will we begin to understand who we are at our very core.  As we learn and grow from infancy through childhood, adolescence into adulthood our experiences inform us and help develop our moral compass, if you will.  We learn right from wrong, differences in good and bad, all these things help to formulate our values.  Most of us form our values with little self direction or discretion, we simply began to mimic the behaviors that we observed and learned from others as we grew because we trusted those individuals.  It’s a natural instinct (I believe that is within our being) to foster and protect others.  If you’re a parent, you probably get this and want only the best for your child/children.  Even if you’re not a parent, there’s probably at least one or two people you’ve met in your life that you wanted to protect, keep safe or just look out for.  Now imagine something or someone wanted to harm that person (?) how do you react?  *That precise feeling is our “anger” and our response action/reaction  is us being “angry.”
Let’s get back to the “why” behind the anger.  I had someone who I trust and look up to, tell me that our anger is often in direct relationship to something we care about. It makes complete sense, people who march in protest do so because they feel strongly about the issue.  I don’t think many people would volunteer to do so just for the “fun” of it.  People who are compassionate about causes will make sacrifices to be heard and recognized. Sometimes people get angry because they feel like they have been cheated or taken advantage of, while others see injustice and suffering around them and they must act no matter how insignificant it might seem.  I am purposely not mentioning any specific situations or causes because that is not what God has placed upon my heart, I believe the message that God gave me to share is awareness of the “why” of anger and angry.  Which is way different from liking or disliking something. This can all become very deep and philosophical but that’s not my intention.  We all have the right to have our own convictions about life and of the decisions we make.  As a Christian, and a follower of Jesus Christ, I am able to worship as I choose to and with that comes the responsibility that others also have that same right.  When I am able to enjoy and participate in activities of my own choosing then I must extend that same right to others that do so differently.  This is sometimes difficult to understand and be a part of but I can only pursue my hopes and dreams when everyone else has the same opportunities that I do.  
I personally cannot make anyone worship and believe in God as I do.  Nor would I try, what I can do is live a life that others might see and that can open opportunities for conversations and introduce people to the God I serve.  Living and teaching through our actions is often better than any words we speak. 
I’m not happy all the time, I’m not sad all the time, sometimes I am in a hurry and other times I just rest, it’s called being human and our humanity can be the cruelest of all things. God did not call me to be perfect, He calls me to be in relationship with Him. To talk with Him daily and to share my hopes, dreams, fears, accomplishments and aspirations, and yes, even my mistakes and disappointments, sharing all of me with Him.  
God calls us to Himself.   
We are uniquely created by Him.  
We each have a purpose and plan.  
Hebrews 9:15
“For this reason Christ is the mediator of a new covenant, that those who are called may receive the promised eternal inheritance —now that he has died as a ransom to set them free from the sins committed under the first covenant.”
1 Peter 5:10
“And the God of all grace, who called you unto his eternal glory in Christ, after that ye have suffered a little while, shall himself perfect, establish, strengthen you.”
Jude 1:1-2
“Jude, a servant of Jesus Christ and a brother of James, To those who have been called, who are loved in God the Father and kept for Jesus Christ: Mercy, peace and love be yours in abundance.”
Ephesians 2:10
“For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”
Jeremiah 29:11-13
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”
Psalm 139:13
“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.”
In closing, I would like to thank you for taking the time to read my blog and if you’re a follower, a second THANK YOU!  May you see and/or feel God in your life today! Amen.
~Blessings and Peace~

(Best) Friend

How would you best describe your best friend?  Are there specific characteristics you would use or personality traits?  What might be attributes of a best friend?

For me the idea and meaning of a best friend has changed as I have grown and experienced different stages of life.  I remember my childhood and the group of neighborhood kids that I spent countless days riding bicycles and playing baseball or kickball.  My teen years were spent trying to be “cool” and “accepted” just like every other teenager.  Friends become boyfriends or girlfriends and best friends are those we share our deepest secrets and dreams with.  The college years sometimes means a stronger bond with your friends from high school or the creation of new “best friends.”  What I’ve learned so far in my life is that I’ve been blessed with some amazing friends while traveling on this journey called “Life!”  I have also learned that the qualities of a best friend while in high school or college can be quite different from a best friend later in life.  With that being said, I believe that the one thing that never changes is the trust component of a best friend.

I have a favorite poem that has been very special to me for several years and it continues to teach me to this very day.

“Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never, ever the same.” ~Flavia Weedn

I have been so blessed to have had wonderful friends throughout my life, some I have been able to maintain contact  with and some I have not spoken with for a very long time.  I have beautiful memories of all these individuals who left footprints on my heart.

My best friend encourages me through actions and thought-provoking questions. She doesn’t provide answers to my questions, she encourages me to search.  She is truthful and honest, she is patient and thoughtful.  She is intentional in her actions and her words.  She is respectful and sincere.  She would caution me to tell you that she is human and makes mistakes just like everyone else, she is not perfect.  After all, we are all human!

The best word I can use to describe my best friend is “humble” she displays “humility.”  A phrase that makes me think of her is “Trust in the Lord” and “Trust the Plan.”  The fall season/foliage, the turning of the leaves makes me think of her and the joy she receives as she views the many shades and hues of yellow, golden, red, crimson, brown and green, as fall settles in before winter chases it away.  Her anchor verse is Proverbs 3:5-6 and she has a thirst for knowledge; giving and receiving it.  She’s a daughter, sister, wife, mother, grandmother, aunt, a cousin, a friend, most importantly she is a child of God!  She’s brave and strong, responsible and reliable, trustworthy and honest. She’s creative and resourceful.


Best friends are special gifts from God! I encourage you to tell your best friend just how you feel, pray for them and thank God for them. 🤓

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” ~Proverbs 3:5-6

~Blessings and Peace~


Season of Drought

Surrounded by withering fields
Day after day the scorching sun is relentless
The moon provides respite for a few short hours
The sun returns, it seems earlier day after day
My thirst continues, the quenching seems impossible
My view is narrowed by my own distractions
My fields are temperamental and susceptible
Fertile soil is deep and plenty
Top soil requires repeated kneading to release that which is alive and abundant
May the refreshing of nature’s rain fall upon all that is withering and seeking
In hopes that the field will once again be healthy, nurtured and prosperous
   June 13, 2018
   0547 (EST)
~Blessings and Peace~

The Plan and Trust, Trust the Plan


Hello friends!  My hope is that you experience the world in a new way today. Every day is unique and never an exact replica of the day before.  Each new day provides new information that was not available to us the day before.  Some days may seem to be a repeat of the previous day, but please resist that urge to discount the day based upon similarities.  When we  decide to settle for the “same ole same ole” we are cheating ourselves of priceless opportunities.  Most of us can relate to the processes we go through everyday that they seem to be robotic and planned out to the tiniest detail.  A favorite movie line of mine seems perfect for this kind of existence, “A life that is planned is a closed life, my friend. It can be endured perhaps. But it cannot be lived.” (The Inn of the Sixth Happiness).

A life lived for me includes recognizing and believing in God as my Creator and the “Creator” of all things.  In believing comes “Trust”, trusting God and trusting God’s Word.  It really is that simple!  So simple that our human(ness) tricks us into doubting the simplicity of it all, we try to rationalize and critique every little thing that we overwhelm ourselves!  With each new sunrise comes a new day with a clean slate to “trust” in the Lord, a new day to “Trust the Plan!”  God wants only good things for each of us, God loves you and me unconditionally.  God loved us so much He sacrificed His son to pay the debt/penalty of sin.

Sometimes I forget and take for granted that I was fortunate to have godly and God-fearing individuals in my life from a very early age.  While many lessons I learned came from attending church some lessons were a result of watching others actively living by being respectful, saying grace before a meal, through helping someone in need, holding a door, by saying “thank you” and “you’re welcome” by sharing joy and sometimes just smiling to someone for no reason at all.

I am sharing all this information mostly because I needed to hear this message of “Trusting in the Lord” and secondly because I’m feeling overwhelmed.  It was a day filled with unexpected news and uncomfortable circumstances both professionally and personally.  I have been resisting the urge to self-implode because well, that would be a stupid and selfish sabotage of myself!  Secondly, it’s too messy and energy wasted.  I did feel an urgency to write about all this, a “Spirit” thing.  If this cracks a window of hope in a moment of despair for someone it’s a win-win!  I feel better simply from writing/blogging about “Trusting in the Lord/Trusting in the Plan” anything more is glory to God and the work of the Holy Spirit.

The events of the day are for me are winding down and rest is beckoning me for sleep…worry will only serve to rob me of rest and rejuvenation, “Trusting in God and His will for my life will bring comfort and relaxation.

In closing, I want to say “thank you” to a dear friend who challenges me and who inspires me daily through her faith and friendship.   

~Blessings and Peace~



Being different (?) (!)

This song came on the radio today as I was driving and the word “DIFFERENT” seemed to formulate in my mind in bold capital letters beckoning for my immediate attention.  Initially I thought of different as opposite from anything or anyone else.  I’m not exactly sure that’s the picture the artist is painting for us.  The beautiful thing about music and art is it’s ability to meet each person in unique and remarkable places.  The vivid picture that was displayed for me today is that God is not asking us to be different as much as He is asking us to be ourselves, the unique person he created us to be, not opposite or in opposition from anyone else.  I know for me personally I have sometimes thought being different meant being unacceptable and not fitting it.  These are the falsehoods that Satan wants us to believe and sometimes the world we experience; however, I believe God wants us to celebrate our uniqueness and share it with the world, as written by Paul in Romans 12:2, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is —his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

I sincerely believe we all desire acceptance on some level, too often we rely and seek this approval from the world, our friends, family and coworkers.  In a general sense I don’t think any of this are particularly wrong the part I question is “why” do we seek their approval?  If it’s merely to receive verbal praise and worthiness in “their” eyes I would say…STOP!  The only true acceptance in placing value on yourself has already been said and established by God before time began.  The hardest thing I have ever done is believe in myself: not what I can do, not what kind of job I have, title I hold, my training or my education; these are additions to me, upgrades if you will.  Believing in myself because God made me and loves me PERIOD!  God loves you and He loves me!  Nothing more nothing less.  Of course, God wants our obedience, time and talents but Hos love is not dependent upon us doing any of these things, His love is unconditional for everyone.

“But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Rom. 5:8

“He has shown you, O man, what is good.  And what does the Lord require of you?  To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.”  Micah 6:8

“How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!”  1 John 3:1

Prayer: Thank you God for your unconditional and relentless love. Amen 

~Blessings and Peace~


May 22nd

When I took this picture of my mom on May 22, 2012 I had no idea it would be the last one I would take.  My mom would unexpectedly pass on June 22, 2012.  It’s not good quality but I cherish it as being priceless.


So, here we are May 22, 2018…I miss her every day.  Today, I am blessed to be able to share the day with my Aunt Helen (my mom’s sister) and my cousin Teresa (Aunt Helen’s daughter) doing something we shared with my mom, placing flowers in cemeteries across Indiana in memory of our beloved family members.  This has been a family practice for as long as I can remember.  It’s such an honor to be able to do this small task every May as it brings back a flood of happy memories and the retelling of old stories and most of all, thankful hearts for all the blessings God has given us.  Life is so very short, tell  the people in your life how much you love them, don’t wait for s special day, they are all special.  Smile more and stop to smell the flowers, stand in the rain and looks to the Heavens and thank God for His Love and for all your Blessings.

The poem below was written about a month after my mom passed away and I was grieving losing her.  Grieving is a part of who I am now, it is more than sadness it’s all emotions intertwined in a beautiful tapestry of all the moments I shared with her.  She is my hero and I am so very thankful that God blessed me with her as my mom!

The Day
The day I never wanted to come
That day has come and gone
The imagined loss and emptiness
Those feelings have settled in
A void that cannot be filled 
How does one grieve such a loss
Not with time, family or friends
Such a loss with open wounds 
Wounds that are felt more than seen
Pain that blocks all healing
Mourning that feels no relief
Just one more hug or embrace
One more I love you
No one can ease the pains of life
Nothing like a mothers love
Mom, I miss you 
I miss you everyday.
~July 28, 2012 @ 10:26pm
Abbey of the Arts for May 22, 2018
“In our usual day to day awareness, one moment isn’t especially different from another. In seasonal time, we become aware of the continual invitation to cross a threshold into a deeper awareness. Dawn, day, dusk, and dark each carry different qualities and questions.”
~Christine Valters Paintner, PhD 
~Blessings and Peace~

Dreaming of Someone

Dreaming of Someone

The familiar keeps appearing in my dreams
I know it was true in the past but holds no future
Wanting to experience the new and unfamiliar
Clouded images is all I can see
I am shrouded with fear and anticipation
Leaving the past settled in a fossilized state
Memories good or bad have power only when we allow it
New things happen everyday it’s time moving forward
Even the best planned events are never a sure thing
The best things often happen when we least expect them
After I started writing this, I turned on the radio and the song I heard was what some might call a coincidence, while others like myself believe it was God speaking directly to me.  This coupled with the fact I was listening to a radio station I was completely skeptical of when I first tried it.  In fact I didn’t even make it through the stations widely known challenge of listening for 30 days and you will be hooked.  Truth is, I was sold almost immediately not only by the truth of their advertising but more importantly their mission “Positive & Encouraging K-LOVE.”
Here’s the song that was playing…
In all honesty, I have no idea what the future may hold for me, or even what I want from the future.  I do believe that God is preparing me for something and just maybe someone. It all starts with one step, followed by another, walking with God as I journey forward.  Thank you for traveling with me on this incredible journey of living life for God.
~Blessings and Peace~

Happy Mother’s Day


Thinking of my mom today and remembering all the Mother’s Days we spent together.  She is greatly missed and I know she’s in Heaven and that she loved me unconditionally.  I thought I would share a poem I wrote for my mom way back in 1985, just a few years ago!



  gives me blue skies,

  and tells me no lies.

  gives me strength when I am weak,

  and wisdom to be meek.

  fills my darkness with light,

  on a cold winters’ night.

  makes me laugh,

  and leads me on my path.


  is this so true,

  it is you, Mother, YOU!

~Blessings and Peace~

Mother’s Day 2018

Happy Mother’s Day Weekend!

I was having breakfast at the Denny’s restaurant today and had just started to work on a mother’s day blog when an elderly couple walked in and sat at a table  near me.  I saw the lady and literally did a double take looking at her.  She looked like my mom, so much in fact I took a picture of her sitting at a table.  I immediately sent it to my cousin with a note saying, “at a glance who do you see?” My cousin responded with, “that gave me chills!”  Followed by a picture of goosebumps on her arm, followed by, “now tears!”  This lady without even knowing it touched at least two lives today.  My cousin and my mom were very close and often has visits from my mom in her dreams.  I was so glad to share this experience with her, her mom and my mom are sisters and there’s such a strong family bond between us, I am extremely blessed.  This will be the fifth mother’s day since my mom passed away, she is greatly missed.  I’ve been thinking of my mom recently and I believe seeing this lady that resembled my mom was a message telling me that my mom is still a part of me and that she knows I struggle sometimes but to remember I come from a long list of strong and caring women.  I am also reminded that I will see her again in Heaven.

I am celebrating my mom and all her accomplishments this weekend!  She will forever be a part of me.  Here’s a photo of my mom and the lady I saw today.


Here’s a new song out just in time for Mother’s Day by Matthew West I hope you like it.

Here’s something I wrote after my mom passed away, I have shared it before but think this is a good time to re-post it.

The fog continues to conceal the facts and realities of life
She is still very alive and just out of reach from me
Seems that we just keep missing one another
As if she’s just a few steps away and I can’t get closer to her
Missing her as if I’ve been on a holiday or vacation
Basically feeling an overall numbness of self and environment
I regret not asking more questions and not listening more intently
She inspired me and others to be honest, strong and above all to have integrity
Missing her is tolerable, thinking she’s just busy
Gone, she can’t be…I’m not ready, there’s still so much more I need
08/12/2012 @ 7:50pm
~Blessings and Peace~