Friends, to be honest I’ve been asking myself this question a lot lately and although I have many ideas I decided to go start with Google! That right, answers for the masses. I found a helpful article and will share it with you.
I truly do love my job, it allows for creativity and teamwork as well as individual projects. I work in a small department and as for our group, we are quite diverse and this can present some challenges due to the strong personalities within the group. Collectively, we perform our particular job functions superbly and with few errors and with little to no direct supervision. We all know the job and our responsibilities and pride ourselves in delivering quality work not just for ourselves, or even just our department but for the agency as a whole. There’s value in the work we perform and the appreciation for doing well is often from coworkers and rarely from our department manager. I must pause and make clear, I can only speculate as to why my manager does or does not offer more praise or encouragement, it may just be his management style and let’s face it we are all adults and are capable of doing a job without the proverbial praise and good job, followed by a high-five, not to mention a congratulatory email for recognition. The truth, from my viewpoint is yes people are motivated by money, time off, a plaque and/or a certificate BUT…my experience is people just want to be told every once in a while they are appreciated and their efforts are known. It costs absolutely nothing to tell someone they are valued and the company is fortunate to have them. I have actually been a manager/boss in a couple of previous jobs and I tried to treat my employees the way I would want to be treated. I was not always successful and I failed a lot but I also learned and changed to meet the challenges. The absolute truth is that there’s no one right answer to any of these things. Some people just need to move on to other things, seek out jobs that feed you, mentally as well as physically. I have a particular coworker who has mentioned wanting a new job, I honestly would hate for this person to leave because of their command presence in the office, I’ve learned so many things just from observing and working side by side with this individual, but God has a plan for each of us and some times they are not what we want. I’m okay with all this, it would be hard but I’m a believer in things happening for a reason and a purpose. I am going to take some suggestions from the article I’m going to share with the post and concentrate on me, my actions and my reactions. I am the only one who can control those two things and they are essential for any true happiness or even contentment. I cannot change my manager, I can change how I respond. I can accept the way things are and be happy if they improve but if not I can still be happy. I can choose to continue doing the job I love regardless if my manager gives me the moral support I think I deserve. I can champion myself and believe in myself. I enjoy challenging myself now by taking on new projects and completing online training courses in addition to the ones already assigned to me, I do them for myself and having them help me with my job is a bonus. A second thing I’ve found to be important is that I can’t compare myself to my coworker or even point out their skills that are lacking or the workload differences, nope I can only control my stuff, me! I do not get evaluated on what others do or do not do, only what I do. We must we look at what we can control and stay in our area. I learned a valuable learn from my coworker that will remain with me for the rest of my life and I’ve even been able to see its benefits in all areas of my life, not just work. It’s called “Area of Control” and “Area of Concern.” It’s not wrong to be aware of the area of concern just remember that once you step out of the control arena into concern it can easily become overwhelming because someone else is in the driver’s seat and you are just a passenger. Just proceed with caution!
Here’s the link to the article:
https://www.themuse.com/advice/what-to-do-when-you-hate-your-boss-but-love-your-job
Friends, always seek the counsel of God before making any life decision. Be open to the Holy Spirit and spend time in prayer. God loves you and is always with you!
Isaiah 41:10 “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
Deuteronomy 31:6 “Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.”
Proverbs 18:24 “One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
~Peace and Blessings~
HOPE SEEKER 