Aloha

I recently received news from a friend that she is moving to Hawaii, I was so excited for her but also sad that I may not get to see her for a long time. She and I had once planned for a Hawaiian vacation unfortunately it never can to fruition.  Our friendship has spanned over a decade and we have shared ups and downs, successes and failures as well as love and loss with one another. It’s funny, she used to refer to me as her “hero” a role that fueled my confidence day by day, year after year I tried to be everything for my friend. A difficult lesson I learned through the years was loving someone and providing for someone are wonderful things to do but life and relationship are about the to and fro, the give and take…they must be reciprocal in order to grow individually as well as together.  This lesson was one I learned from NOT doing those things. In any relationship communication is key, doing too much for a partner or friend can actually hurt the one person you are trying to help and love completely, crazy I know but it’s the truth. I learned that sometimes you have to allow freedom and change to happen so love can blossom and grow, to mature.  I wanted to be her “hero” and I thought that could only happen if I did everything, sometimes being the “hero” meaning stepping back and watching the cocoon bloom into a beautiful butterfly…That is exactly what happened with my friend!!! She is independent, smart and beautiful! I wish her much happiness in Hawaii and I know that when I am able to see her again it will be as if no time has passed.  I was unable to recognize the plans that God had for me, until I was able to surrender all to Him, His plan is way cooler than I ever dreamed.  Aloha, my friend traveling mercies for you and much happiness!  Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) “For I know the plans I have for you, ‘declares the Lord,’ plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

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